About Interpersonal Harm
Interpersonal harm is a general term used to describe experiences that may feel unsafe, uncomfortable, or unwanted. This can include unwanted sexual experiences, harm in dating or intimate relationships, and stalking or unwanted contact.
Unwanted Sexual Experiences
Unwanted sexual experiences (sometimes called sexual assault) can include any sexual contact, behavior, or pressure that happens without a person choosing it or agreeing to it. Some people recognize what happened right away; others may need time, language, or examples before things feel clearer.
Examples include:
- Being pressured or talked into sexual activity
- Sexual activity that happened without agreeing to it
- Being touched or kissed in a sexual way when it was not wanted
- Receiving sexual messages, pictures, or comments that feel uncomfortable
Everyone reacts differently, and support is available no matter when or how the experience occurred.
For more general information about sexual harm, the offers an overview of consent, boundaries, and unwanted sexual experiences.
Intimate Relationship Harm
Some dating relationships include behaviors meant to control, frighten, or wear someone down over time. These behaviors can be emotional, verbal, digital, financial, or physical, and may be described as relationship harm (sometimes called dating or domestic violence). These signs can build slowly and may be hard to recognize while they are happening.
Examples include:
- Being yelled at, put down, or made to feel small
- Feeling pressured to do things out of fear of someone’s reaction
- Being kept away from friends, family, or activities
- Having texts, social media, or location checked without permission
- Money, transportation, or basic needs being controlled
- Being physically hurt, threatened, or scared
Support can be helpful whether the relationship is ongoing, ending, or already over.
For additional examples of concerning behaviors, the provides a helpful overview of warning signs.
Stalking and Unwanted Contact
Stalking happens when someone continues to give unwanted contact or attention that makes another person feel scared, stressed, or watched. One action by itself might seem small, but when similar behaviors continue over time, the situation can feel overwhelming or confusing.
Examples include:
- Repeated messages or calls, especially after being asked to stop
- Showing up unexpectedly at school, work, or home
- Watching or checking online activity
- Appearing where someone usually goes
- Sending unwanted gifts or notes
- Asking others for information about where someone is or who they are with
Some individuals recognize stalking only after talking with someone else or seeing examples that feel familiar.
For more information about stalking and unwanted contact, visit .
Connecting with a CAPE Counselor
CAPE counselors offer confidential support without requiring labels, documentation, or decisions. Conversations can focus on what feels most helpful in the moment, including:
- Talking through experiences at a comfortable pace
- Exploring options without pressure
- Finding language that feels right
- Discussing emotional, academic, or safety needs
- Identifying possible next steps — or choosing not to take any steps at all
Support is available whether someone has clear questions, is sorting through mixed feelings, or simply wants a private space to talk.
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Revised 12/8/25